February 6th, 2012
Buddha in Vietnam
“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn´t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, "May I have permission to go into battle with you?" Fear said, "Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission." Then the young warrior said, "How can I defeat you?" Fear replied, "My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don´t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don´t do what I say, I have no power." In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear. ”
― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice For Difficult Times
Fear - This is something that can immobilize us or help us access our deepest inner strength. As the quote above says; If you don´t do what fear tells you, it has no power. How often do we follow our fears, and react from fear and push people that we love away?
There is another way. We can look at the fear. What are we afraid of? That someone won´t love us? That we will be punished? Or that we don´t deserve to be loved? All of these fears can be evaluated and when looked at with compassion and love we can see that these are not true. They are not
true. The true essence of our beings is love.
Christie Dakin - Registered Professional Counsellor