March 8th, 2012
How to make those tough decisions
Making the tough decisions
My 18 year old son is a big hockey fan. He invited me to watch the Don Cherry story last weekend. At one point in the movie, Don is around 18 years old and has a job painting houses in the summer. One day his dad came into the house and asked his wife where Don was. She told him that he was in his room because his work had been cancelled due to rain. His father was not impressed with this information.
His father walked up the stairs, took one look at his son sitting reading on his bed and told him to come with him. He took Don to a friend who got him a job working on the railroad. This work was backbreaking and very difficult physical labour. This was tough decision but it taught young Don Cherry a lot about hard work, commitment and self-discipline.
I told my son that we need Don Cherry´s father in our house!
It was his turn to look unimpressed.
How do we make these tough decisions? Is it time to leave this relationship? Is it time to leave this job? Should I do this or should I do that? How do we access the deep inner strength within us and be Don Cherry´s father for ourselves?
This can be done in a number of ways. I tend to sit quietly, close my eyes, calm my breathing and then I will ask my right mind how I can see this situation differently. How can I have peace in this situation? What is the loving and kind solution? Then I wait. I stay quiet. And I trust that an answer will come and it always does.
Another way is to discuss the pending decision with a neutral 3rd party. It can be helpful to talk with someone who can help you see the situation differently.
Whichever choice you make, remember that you can´t do it wrong and sometimes the tough decisions are the kindest decisions in the long run.