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When Is it Time for Don Cherry´s Father?
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Making the tough decisions

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March 8th, 2012
When is it time to make a tough decision? How do we do that with kindness and firmness? What is we are afraid of making the wrong decision or of hurting someone including ourselves?

How do we access that deep inner strength?

Read on and find out....
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An Affair - Is this Relationship Over?
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April 12th, 2012
Does a spouse having an affair mean that the relationship is over? Is the situation hopeless? Is there anything left to save?

There can be......
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How to Ease the Pain
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How to Ease the Pain

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April 26th, 2012
In our lives we have found many ways of coping with pain. We deny it. We ignore it or we push it away. All these coping mechanisms serve only to keep what we are defending against. What started out as a way to handle our problems can, in fact, become the problem itself....
The Window From Which We Look
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June 25th, 2012
Our perception of what we see determines how we feel and the judgments we hold. Very often, our perception is wrong. I invite you to read this little story to better understand this concept....
"We´re all just walking each other home" Ram Dass
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Workers on a field in Vietnam

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June 22nd, 2012
“We´re all just walking each other home." Ram Dass

Read on to see how this may be true for you.
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Are You Experiencing "The Silent Treatment?"
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July 17th, 2012
Is the Silent Treatment been a form of communication you are familiar with?

It can be an effective way to communicate but not a good way to connect.

If connection is of interest, there are many other options.
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I Can Do It!
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English Garden

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July 30th, 2012
The messages we give ourselves are ever so powerful. Choose the good ones!...
Maybe - A Zen Buddhist Fable
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September 6th, 2012
“Maybe,” said the farmer.

-A Zen Buddhist Fable

We are often so quick to judge a situation as bad or good. Have you ever noticed that something you thought was the worst thing that could every happen to you turned out rather well? Or that a situation you considered to be wonderful was in fact, a real nightmare?

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Would you Rather Be Right or Happy?
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A Piranha´s teeth.....this is us when we want to be right.

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October 1st, 2012
When I want to be right about what I am believing about another, I am actually deciding against my own happiness. This can create so much tension and fear that the whole relationship can disintegrate. This would be exactly what I DO NOT want to happen. It is worth stopping and asking myself what do I want to be right about? What is so important anyway? If the answer is the person in front of you, then a more diplomatic response may be the order of the day....
A Bias for Trust
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A Rainbow in Peru

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November 1st, 2012
Entering onto a relationship with suspicion and fear can damage the relationship beyond repair. The fear actually spreads like wildfire and both people can end up afraid and not knowing how to make a positive change.

Instead, I can know that everyone is actually the same as me. We all want to be loved and supported. Perhaps I will find that by offering this up this trust I will receive it for myself.

We are always discovering what we expect to find.
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Clear Vision November Newsletter
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November 21st, 2012
Find out who you are and figure out what you believe in. Even if it's different from what your neighbors believe in and different from what your parents believe in. Stay true to yourself. Have your own opinion. Don't worry about what people say about you or think about you. Let the naysayers nay. They will eventually grow tired of naying.”
 Ellen DeGeneres, Seriously...I'm Kidding
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Is Money An Emotional Issue?
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Feeling As Though You Are Out On A Financial Ledge?

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December 27th, 2012
Do you spend too much money buying things that are not really necessary?
Do you question why you need to spend so much?
Is excessive spending creating conflict in your marriage or family?

There is a better way.
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How to Say No and Mean it.
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Did you say NO?

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January 25th, 2013
Often we can feel as though someone is “guilting” us into agreeing to do something that we don't particularly want to do. In fact, no one ever can MAKE us feel guilty but we certainly can choose guilt when we try to get another person's approval or appreciation or love.

I often have my clients ask themselves "Is this decision coming from love or fear?" When I am coming from love, then the answer could be yes or no and I will be content because it is an honest yes or no. If it is coming from f
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Listening - The Way to Connect Through Relationships
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Sadie, the counselling dog, loves to listen!

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March 28th, 2013
How often do we really listen to another person? I am talking about listening without wanting to get our own point across but simply allowing the other person to be the way they are? What would it feel like to do that? How would it feel to receive this?...
A Great Couple - Meeting in Italy
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June 4th, 2013
Have you ever known a couple who are truly polite, kind and considerate of each other? What makes a relationship work in this manner?...
Relationship Stress - One Day workshop - Saturday, September 28th
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September 13th, 2013
Would you like an opportunity to understand a current relationship you are engaged in? Would you like to feel more calm and relaxed with this person and have better communication between you? Join us in a small group atmosphere as we offer you tools to connect with the people in your life from a different and more peaceful perspective....
Shame, Blame and Disrespect and what to do about them
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November 20th, 2016
Have you wondered whether your relationship is over because of something that has happened? Perhaps it could just be the beginning of a new and deeper relationship with this person....
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